I remember sitting in my senior seminar class in college and saying "Even when I'm a mom, I will always be out working no matter what". Funny how you can say one thing and then it's the complete opposite in less than a year. That's just the way life works, right.
I graduated college in May 2016 with a full time job starting in June. Little did I know that 3 days after I graduated I would become pregnant. Of course, I didn't know right away and I actually didn't find out until the very end of June. So of course I panicked a little bit when I found out. I literally just graduated college and started my new full time job. HOW WAS I GOING TO TELL MY JOB? - My first thought. Well it all worked out, I continued working until I gave birth and then after I gave birth to my daughter, I still worked but I got to work from home (not a permanent thing). It was great being able to be with my daughter all day everyday and still be able to work, but it was DIFFICULT, like really difficult. When the time started approaching of when I was going to have to actually start going into work, I began to panic. I didn't want to be away from my daughter, and I didn't want to put her in daycare. Well it's funny how things work because I actually ended up leaving the job I was at and starting a different job where I had to go into work EVERYDAY. Luckily, my mom was off from work while looking for a new job so my mom watched her while I was at work (Whew, didn't have to put her in daycare). Well about a month and a half into this job, my mom got a new job. SHIT! That means I would have to put my daughter in daycare which I thought I would be okay with at that point because she was a little older, but I wasn't.
I ended up leaving the job I was at, to stay home with my daughter. Never in a million years did I think I would EVER do that. BUT, it literally has been the best decision I've ever made. Of course I was a little disappointed and had a little regret AT FIRST. I had just left a job I really loved and enjoyed BUT after being home with my daughter for the first day, I knew it was all worth it.
It's so crazy how life works and at one point in your life your saying things you'll never do and then the next moment you're doing the complete opposite. All of this literally happened in a year. I graduated, got pregnant, gave birth, worked from home after birth, left that job for a new job, quit my new job, and then became a stay at home mom. A lot of changes, but they say change is good.
Now, in my title, I stated I'm a Work From Home - Stay At Home Mom and that is true. Before I left the my new job, I was presented with a job opportunity that was strictly work from home and it fit right in with my field so of course I said YES! Luckily, I have a lot of flexibility with this job so I can still enjoy my daughter 110% and never miss a milestone but still be able to work. I've also been able to put a lot of more time into my blog, working and collaborating with other brands, and I've started an etsy shop making headbands and bows for little girls (which you should all go check out ;)).
No one knows what the future brings, and my situation may not always be what it is now but I do know I am very thankful for being able to be home with my daughter everyday and I know not everyone wants that or has the luxury to do that. All MOMS are AMAZING.
I also wanted to touch on the stay at home mom topic. Although it's a luxury and a privilege, and I am forever thankful to be able to do so, it can be tough. A lot of times you don't feel like you have any time to yourself, you're constantly trying to keep your house clean, entertain your child, cook, and in my case WORK. It's hard to balance everything. Also, you sometimes feel like you are losing your identity. I don't wake up and put on a super cute outfit, and do my hair and makeup, or even SHOWER some days. Sure, I guess I could do that but let's be real. I'm waking up to get my daughter breakfast and changing diapers. If I do my makeup it's just going to end up wiped off from my daughter hanging on me all day or all over her clothes. I'm not going to a workplace interacting with people everyday and having adult conversations. I'm having conversations with a toddler (that I do love). But the point is like I said above ALL MOMS ARE AMAZING and we all have our own battles but let's be real, our children are our biggest blessings and we wouldn't change a thing.
Life has a funny way of changing things when you think you have it all planned out.
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