Most women dream of becoming a mother. It's one of their top goals in life. (and for those who don't have this goal, you're still awesome!) I knew I always wanted to be a mom. I loved children, taking care of children, and watching my friend's kids. I knew I wanted to be a younger mom as well (23). Although my daughter wasn't "planned" (i hate saying that) she is the best thing that has EVER happened to me. I know all parents say that, but it's so true. My daughter will be 1 on Valentine's Day. I know, how lucky am I that I get to celebrate the love of my life of the holiday of love. I thought that I would share what it means to be a Mom to me. (The good, the bad, the funny, the why's, all of that).
Being a mom means . . .
- Learning how to do things that you never thought you would
- Doing everything, and i mean everything (cooking, cleaning, peeing, your makeup, etc) while holding a baby in your other hand
- Letting your child pull out your hair just so they will sleep
- Letting them sleep in your bed just so you can sleep
- Getting peed, pooped, and threw up on A LOT (especially when they're newborns)
- Looking like you got ran over by a bus because you just don't have the time to fix yourself up or more than likely you just don't care
- Not showering for 2.... or 3... or maybe even 4 days! :0
- Getting head butted so hard in your head or lip that you literally have to remind yourself that she/he's just a baby and they didn't mean it because it feels like a boulder just hit you
- Putting your child down for a nap (and they are sound asleep) and then the MILLISECOND you walk out the door, they're up, like wide awake and your plans of whatever you wanted to do (probably just pee alone) are out the window
Now all of those things are true... and they may seem like the "bad" side to motherhood but they're not.. and there is a WHOLE LOT OF GREAT
What being a mom REALLY means is . . .
- Having someone showing you and giving you the purest, truest, unconditional love all the time
- Crying 10 times more than your child when they get hurt because you can't stand to see your baby in pain
- Having your child cry when you walk out the room because all they want is your love and it makes you feel more wanted than anyone could ever make you feel
- Seeing your child smile at just the sight of you, the sound of your voice, or the touch of your hand
- Letting your baby sleep on you (when you have a million other things to do) because time is just flying by and you don't know how much more times like this you will get
- Witnessing their first smile, laugh, word, crawl, step, clap, wave
- Comforting your baby with your hugs and getting comforted in return with their hugs
- Teaching your baby only things you can teach them
- Being their cheerleader for every milestone they reach
- Missing your baby the second they go to sleep, or the minute you drop them off at their grandparents for the day and not knowing what to do with yourself
- Making a million mistakes a day and learning as you go along
But most importantly it's giving your child your attention, unconditional love, patience, and care day in and day out. Being there for them and loving them with all of your heart. It is the most rewarding "job" you could ever have in your entire lifetime. Being a new mom comes with a lot "Am i doing this right" and a lot of googling to see if what just happened to your baby has happened to another lol. But don't worry you got this.
I love being a mom to my Mila and I wouldn't change it for anything!